Getting that party started

August 15, 2006 at 3:14 pm (Community, Community & Activism, Parent Communities, Social Activities)

I was laying on the bed, nursing (my favorite thinking spot) and I started to wonder about the whole parent/non-parent interaction dichotomy. Was it like this for my parents? Possibly. For their parents? Probably not. We all know about the golden old days when women had few choices other than spinsterhood and wife and motherhood. So, most people out of the educational system were usually looking to get married. And most married people were looking to start families. Naturally there were exceptions, but this was largely the state of American culture in the first half of the twentieth century. Chances are the people you socialized with in your age range were doing similar things to you, dealing with similar issues and choices.

So, moving forward to the current time, not everyone expects to get married let alone have kids. And some have kids much later than others. And then there’s the presence of nontraditional families who would have been invisible previously. There are more choices available to men and women but they’re still out there, mixing it up and getting social. Therefore, like never before, there’s this new dynamic being forged between people of similar age but vastly different lifestyle.

This seems like the perfect opportunity to make some real headway in true mothers’, fathers’ and children’s rights. People with families used to sort of plane off into their own little suburban niches, largely becoming more politically and economically conservative and forming that “silent majority” everyone talked about in the sixties. But now mamas and papas continue to hang out with those who choose not to be parents, each exposing the other to new ways of seeing the world and keeping that vital, radical fire stoked. The non-parents remind the parents of the opportunities they should still be allowed to access with their children. The parents remind the non-parents that kids can be just as cool and should be allowed to grow up in a safe, fun environment full of opportunities. What a swell party this is!

andrea

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ACT NOW – Help Protect CODEPINK Women Traveling With Humanitarian Aid Convoy to Lebanon!

August 12, 2006 at 3:22 pm (Action Alert!)

This action alert was found on hipmama.com, posted by PlacentaMom.

August 12, 2006

Dear hipMamas,

CODEPINK women Medea Benjamin, Gael Murphy and Diane Wilson are risking their lives to bring aid to Southern Lebanon and to expose the atrocities, please help protect them in their passage.

Contact the Israeli Embassy in Washington DC and the Israeli Consulate in New York today to let them know that there is international attention on the Humanitarian Aid Convoy composed of Lebanese and U.S. citizens as well as other Internationals that plans to bring much needed aid to the thousands of civilians that are dying in Southern Lebanon from thirst, hunger and disease brought about by the bombing.

Let them know that we expect safe passage for this convoy – they must know the whole world is watching!

In Solidarity,
Allison, Anedra, Dana, Erin, Farida, Gael, Jodie, Katie, Laura, Medea, Meredith, Nancy, Rae, Samantha and Tiffany

CALL TODAY!
Amir Maimon – Minister-Counselor and Head of Department
Eynat Shlein-Michael – Counselor for Middle Eastern Affairs
Reuven Azar – Counselor for Political Affairs
Israel Embassy Washington DC Political Department
Tel: (202) 364-5581/2
Fax: (202) 364-5490

New York Israel Consulate General
Tel: (212) 499-5000

In Solidarity,
Allison, Anedra, Dana, Erin, Farida, Gael, Jodie, Katie, Laura, Medea, Meredith, Nancy, Rae, Samantha and Tiffany

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Online interactions, creating community…

August 8, 2006 at 5:26 am (Activist Parents, Community & Activism, Social Activities, online community)

Around 3 in the afternoon 

Andrea: I’m feeling kinda weird today. i tried lurking around hipmama, but most of posts just bored or annoyed me

Atena: Yeah? Like what?

Andrea: like sometimes i just don’t give a shit about hearing about other moms and their interactions with their kids

Atena: Understandable – I think most of us feel that way at some time or another.

Andrea: or what appears to me to be subtle passive aggressive attention seeking

Atena: Yeah – that can definitely be annoying.

Andrea: i guess hipmama’s signal to noise ratio is a bit lower than i want to alot valuable time to

i also found the CV of this girl i knew in college. she’s a PhD now and teaches and does all this stuff. she wrote she got this award that i won and i’m trying to remember if i won it the year she said she won it (thereby lying about winning it)

Atena: It’s gotten to be quite a big community now – there’s so many people, groups and subgroups… I definitely don’t hang out there as much as I used to. It’s not as satisfying, but I still find it to be a pretty valuable reaource.

Andrea: kinda got my dander up

Atena: Wow – yeah…

Andrea: yeah, i guess i’m not sure what kind of resource i’m looking for

Atena: Are you looking to interact, or just to read and have more of a one-way interaction?

Andrea: i guess to interact, but i’m starting to think that i’m a little tired of online interaction. i mean, it was my main mode of meeting others since 1992. it’s been a long freakin’ time

Atena: I guess so…
I’m newer to online interaction, so it’s still novel to me somewhat.

Andrea: yeah

Atena: Online forum discussions can be tiring – I’m more into one-on-one chat with people I actually know, or blog & response discussions, where everyone has time to think about what they wanna say.

Andrea: although i think i could be excited by online interaction if i was actively engaged in a community of upbeat but quirky people

Atena: Well, lord knows there’s enough of us out here…

Andrea: it feels like a lot of the people on forums either have a lot of anger or issues or drama that they need to vent somewhere but it ends up dragging everything down
it turns into a pity party of oneupmanship
or a lot of hand-holding and back patting

Atena: Absolutely. I guess I’ve taken that to be par for the course. The nice thing is you can always find another discussion.

Andrea: and while that’s really vital and useful for folks, i didn’t sign up for a group therapy session

Atena: True…

Andrea: yeah, i guess i’m not finding discussions that are interesting to me

Atena: But it’s nice to have a place to do that if you find that you’re the one who needs hand holding.
It can definitely get tedious though.
So it’s good that the internet is so vast, eh?

Andrea: yeah. i don’t want to stop that kind of compassion (although i might also be speaking of my own rejected attempts and getting someone to hold my hand)
and=at

Atena: Gotcha.
What I’ve been doing lately…
is finding blogs that I like, and then reading blogs linked to those blogs, and so on…

Andrea: *nod*

Atena: That way I can always find new content.

Andrea: oh, i checked in at the hipmama meetup group and chimed in with an RSVP

Atena: Cool! I’d totally forgotten about it.
What’d you say?

Andrea: oh that it sounded too pricy and what about a nice playgroup?
i couldn’t think of anything more biting to say ;)

Atena: I wonder if they’ll respond to the cost issue…

Andrea: i fear it’s going to get buried

Atena: Well, I hope not, but it’s always a possibility.
Maybe we should organize our own Hip Parent Party, or something… Like the Young Breeders’ Society.

Andrea: i wonder if we should start a meetup and be really explicit about who we’re interested in meeting. and maybe do something a little punk-rock, like converge on a place traditionally lacking in mamaenergy (like Filter or some similar hipster joint)
heh

Atena: Oh, that’s a great idea. I’ve been wanting to do something like that for a while.

Andrea: OR! we could do a little activism

Atena: That IS activism!
But what did you have in mind?

Andrea: well, you know those flyers for the mama manifesto site?

Atena: Yeah.
Oh – hold on – Stella’s freakin out…

Andrea: i thought it’d be bitchin to print a bunch out and tack ‘em up around various places. we could have a walk with all the mamas who want to participate

Atena: Cool!

Andrea: and, if we build up enough people, we could crash mommy groups to get out of the ol’ comfort zone
the mamas meet the mommies

Atena: Hmm – interesting…
Which mommy groups did you have in mind?

Andrea: i don’t know any yet, but i’m sure they abound
Lincoln Park, Evanston, Gold Coast

Atena: What would we do?

Andrea: wouldn’t that be a hoot? get all punk rock looking and show up to a Lincoln Park playgroup?

Atena: That would be pretty funny.

Andrea: just show that an alternative world view exists
not necessarily get in their face but just talk about stuff and respond
and nurse

Atena: Of course.

Andrea: whip out the ol’ boobs

Atena: Always!

Andrea: i’m just slinging pie in the sky
the first order of business is to find cool moms, tho
i wonder if we could put up flyers in, like, tattoo parlors and record stores

Atena: They’re out there… we already know a few -
Natalie has been telling me about some moms she’d like me to meet.

Andrea: hell, we could see if we could form some kind of working/awareness group to see what kind of activism we can accomplish
natalie is so impressive. i was very intimidated, i must say. she’s definitely a force of nature

Atena: Yeah – she can be intimidating…
She’s a total sweetheart radical earth mama, though…

Andrea: that’s awesome
she has the kind of strong energy i aspire to have someday when i get my shit together

Atena: We should all get together and have a nurse-in.

Andrea: definitely.
hey, look at this: http://www.momsrising.org/neighborhood/start_a_group
discussion topics! action items!

Atena: Awesome!
You know…
I’d really like to find some rad dads and get together with them. I get so mamacentric sometimes…

Andrea: yeah! that’d be awesome!
again with the Young Breeders Society

Atena: and there’s really valuable dad energy out there.
Right!

Andrea: okay, let’s plan a gathering then
and we’ll invite all the very cool dads and moms we know
should we focus on moms and dads that are a bit more radical/receptive to activism?

Atena: Awesome – I’m nursing and typing one-handed – that’s why i’m so
slow

Andrea: do we want to go in that direction, or make that something separate?

Atena: Good question…

Andrea: i’d totally be interested in hosting the event, since we’ve got lots of sitting areas and a bit table and such
bit=big
(henry is going to sleep forEVER)

Atena: (Stella’s been wiggling like crazy and smacking my hands)

Andrea: (oof. that’s a pain)

Atena: But the event – cool… Yes! -
Maybe we could start out with just identifying and getting to know parents…

Andrea: that’d be good

Atena: and then as we get to know them
invite them to join us in more activism.

Andrea: we should make it a potluck
ja

Atena: Potluck is always a good idea.
Maybe not always, but often enough.

Andrea: yeah

Atena: Alright -
what’s our timeframe?

Andrea: hmm. i guess sooner is cool. might prompt mark to put more boxes in the basement. ;)

Atena: Heh!
(Stella’s laughing too.)

Andrea: hee hee
awww.. henry turned over onto his belly. he looks so sweet.

Atena: Well, how about the end of this month?

Andrea: okay

Atena: Let me look at my calendar…

Andrea: i was thinking perhaps a sunday afternoon? would that be possible?
or would a saturday afternoon be better?

Atena: I’m not sure…
You’re the host -
what’s best for you?

Andrea: i was thinking it’s more likely Mark wouldn’t be shooting on a Sunday
i don’t know when shooting will start again

Atena: Good call.

Andrea: August 27?

Atena: Maybe we should plan tentatively for Sunday the 27th, and find out what the husbands are up to?

Andrea: sounds good to me

Atena: Rock on!
Okay…

Andrea: oh hey… what are you doing Wednesday evening, after 8 p.m.?

Atena: I think I should probably go, ’cause Stella’s got stress hiccups and is looking a bit forlorn…

Andrea: awww. poor little one.

Atena: Here – I’ll call you on the phone, okay?

Andrea: k

Atena: Alright, bye!

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